This is not something I would normally write about, but I think most Military wives think about it. Keeping your spouse “satisfied” from 7,000 miles away is tough. Skype is helpful, chatting feels naughty and dirty emails are good, but after so many it’s hard to keep it “fresh.” I know you know what it’s like, keeping an active sex life can be challenging even when they are in the bed next to you.
I know this might be too much information for some. It’s tough for me to admit, but I’m not the best long distance lover. I’m not fond of dirty talk or sexting or webcam intercourse. However, this time around I really want to be there for my husband in every way. I want to keep him excited and interested. It isn’t my norm, it isn’t what I’d choose, but part of me believes that I need to be engaging and involved as much as possible.
After too many trips, to too many places, this is something I have to face and focus on. It’s a small part of my job as a good wife. For the most part, I don’t think most military wives like to talk about it. It’s almost a taboo subject, but I can guarantee more wives think about it than would like to admit.
I’m not asking you for advice, unless you feel comfortable giving it, then please advise! I just want to tell you I’m thinking about it. If phone sex lines can stay afloat, those on the receiving end must be saying something to keep callers satisfied. Porn between a married couple isn’t bad, in fact I would say it is what can keep both parties into each other.
So, there you go, my little secret no more. If you are brave enough comment or shoot me an email telling me how you, as a couple deal with long term separation and sex.